What a year can do

Hello everyone,
so here I am today with another chit-chat time again.
hahaha so sorry if you're damn bored with my blog contents.
Well you know in life, sometimes we're happy, we're sad, we're confuse, etcetera. And I'm on the middle of nowhere I don't even know what exactly I'm feeling right now. Weird. Yeah. Whatever you said.

So, I know it's in the middle of the night, where everyone is barely now sleeping and having a sweet dream, while me still awake and doing some random things, like this, chit-chat with my own laptop, listening to some random music, well I put it on shuffle, then checking on my facebook, trying few clothes (oh well idk why I do this such of things in 2 am LOL I think I'm a weirdo), looking at my beauty space OH i mean my own table with full of any kind of makeup, well most of all, I think a lot, I mean I've got this freshly brain in almost every midnight, oh yeah.. *am I too talkative? lol*

Now, what I was thinking is how my life changes a lot in just a year, looking back on last year, where I still a "jobless", you could say "pengangguran" in Indonesian, all I can think about is holiday, hangout, party-ing (well I start to go to such club last year before my birthday), shopping, manicure-pedicure, etc.

And thank God, now I had a job, I start to build up my career, I already taken my beauty class and ready to get another course in few months ahead, well I know I still can't get over from partying kind of lifestyle, pity me, but I'll make sure I will get over it really soon.

And umm.. Thank God for what you've done for my life, even if it's not always good, I really thankful, especially for last birthday present from you. I never ask for more, but you give me more than I deserve, well I didn't wish it would happen that day, but it was my best birthday ever, I can see that one person who I really wanted to meet, and voila.
Ok, now it's nothing.
Yeah.. I know it's been a rough year for me. I was end up getting dumped by someone I really loved, yeah that someone who I really wanted to meet on my last birthday last year, hahaha.. Well love sucks, oh no, people around us sucks.
But, yeah.. That's a part of life, you can't always get what you want right? :)
It's pretty amazing what a year can do, well you'll never know how far you had change if you didn't look back, you can look back but don't dwell on past, it's kinda useless you know.

I am glad that I can get through it little by little, there was something I really grateful about, problems that makes me who I am today, I know I'm not strong enough, but I know I will get through everything, if I want to try.
Still can't get through it? TRY HARDER. 
I know it's easier to talk like that, but I exactly know how hard is it, but once you get through it, you know that it's the best thing that you can do. Sometimes what I really need is just time, people said time heals almost everything, but no, your wounds might heal, but the scars will always there, even if it's invisible. Agree? hahahaha why am I got a lot of quotations in my head huh?

So yesterday I hangout with few friends, well they're just like my third family, one of my friend said that "Cinta itu tidak harus memiliki", once I agreed with that quote, but the boys didn't. hahaha Idk why, but they said that "kalau kamu selalu mikir cinta tidak harus memiliki, maka kamu ga akan pernah bisa maju kedepan." Umm I kinda confuse with this FYI. People said, if you love someone, let them go, set them free, if they're comeback, s/he's YOURS. Oh it happen once, but yeah he's not mine eventually. hahaha..

Just so you know, I only said what I want to say, I tell you this long long story, doesn't mean that I still can't get over him okay, that's a part of life, you can never really get over something you know? Can you see, I'm still me, I'm alive, I never tied my life hanging on someone so when they're left, I still alive, breathing, and go on with my life. That's true, don't tie your happiness on someone else's  life. They might once said that they can't live without you, but now SEE? they're still alive right? hahaha kidding. :)

When i said, I am happy if you're happy, even if it's not with me, it's fucking true. You know, I'd rather be a HONEST asshole than a LYING bitch. 
I know exactly how it feels to be lied to. I don't want anyone else to feel the same way like what I already feel before. You could say that I'm blind that time, I know the truth but still act like a foolish girl who put everything aside just because of the love she had for that someone who never ever love her, respects her, and want her. 
No one ever wants it, but people have to fall over sometimes, not because they deserve it, it's a way of life teaches you how to be a good and better person in the future.

So maybe, this is the end of chit-chat time.
It took me one hour to type this emotional kind of post. LOL
I'll seeyou in another post!
Ciaoooo

                                                                                xoxo,

                                                                                          Lia ♥

You are Special

Someone will always be prettier.
Someone will always be smarter.
Some of their houses will be bigger.
Some will drive a better car.
Their children will do better in school.
And their husband will fix more things around the house.
So let it go, and love you and your circumstances.

Think about it!
The prettiest woman in the world can have hell in her heart.The most highly favored woman on your job may be unable to have children.The richest woman you know, she's got the car, the house, the clothes~ might be lonely.
So, love who you are.
Look in the mirror in the morning and smile and say,
'I am too Blessed to be Stressed. and too Anointed, to be Disappointed!

Winners make things happen~
Losers let things happen.

'Be 'Blessed' friends...

“To the world you might be one person, to me you are special!” :)

9 techniques to STOP negative thinking.

Hello everyone,

so today I'm back with a FRESHLY new topic!

Some of us may have a lot of negative thinking about something, someone, or anything right?

Well something that you're afraid about what will happen "IF" is always right inside your head..

Did you know that all negative thinking  that you've think about could happen in real life?

Well you know that most of people always said to have a positive thinking.

 
For most of us, negative thinking may have become a part of yourself.

When things do not go according to plan, it is easy to feel depressed and can not see the good side of the incident.Negative thinking does not carry anywhere, except to make the feeling worse, which then will result in our disappointing performance. This could be an endless loop.

Jessica Padykula suggest 9 techniques to prevent and overcome negative thoughts which are as follows:

1. Living in the moment.Thinking about the past or the future is a thing that often makes us anxious. Rarely do we panic because of what happened today. If you find your mind is locked in what has happened or what has not happened, remember that only the present that we can control.

 2. Say positive things to yourself.Tell yourself that you're strong, you can afford. Say it over and over, anytime. Especially, start the day by saying something positive about yourself and the day, no matter if the day you have to take difficult decisions or you will not believe what you say to yourself.

 3. Believing in the power of positive thinking.If you think positive, positive things will come and the difficulties will feel lighter. Conversely, if you think negatively, negative things will happen to you. This is a universal law, like laws of gravity or energy exchange. It will not be easy to change your mindset, but the effort is comparable to the results that you can pick. 

4. Get over it.Search what makes you think negatively, fix, and re-developed. If it can not be repaired anymore, stop complaining and regret that it will only spend time and energy, also make you feel worse. Accept what has happened, lessons learned / lessons from this, and again advanced.

 5. Focus on positive things.When we're being so negative, we often forget what we have and focus more on what we do not have. Keep a gratitude journal. No matter the time, each day write down five of six positive things that happened that day. Positive things that could be big things or just little things like 'sunny day' or 'eat this evening amazing'. As long as you stay consistent doing this, it is able to change your negative thinking into a positive thought. And when you start feeling negative, read back the journal.

 6. Move.Exercise releases endorphins that can make you a better feeling. Is it just a walk around the block or run ten kilometers, physical activity will make ourselves feel better. When you feel down, fifteen minutes of sports activity can make you feel better.

7. Face your fear.Negative feelings come from fear, the more afraid you will live, the more negative thoughts about yourself. If you are afraid of something, do something about it. Fear is a part of life but we have the option to not let fear stop us.

8. Try new things.Trying new things can also boost your confidence. By saying yes to your life open up more opportunities for growth. Stay away from the thought 'yes, but ...'. New experiences, small or large, making life seem more pleasant and useful.

9. Change the perspective.When something does not go well, find a way to look at it from a more positive perspective. In every challenge there is profit, there is a challenge in any profits.

 Goodluck! :)

                                                                 xoxo,

                                                            Lia.