1. A man won't let go if he really loves you.
Don't hold on to someone who has let go of you. He doesn't love you and doesn't value having you. Believe me, he will not let go if he really love you. There is another reason he is no willing to tell.
2. Don't look for reasons why he ended the relationship.
There is only one reason why he ended your relationship. He just doesn't love you. Don't waste your time thinking of reasons or what you should have done. Move on and be open to a man who will truly love you.
3. Don't get hung up on your past.
Don't nag or distrust your current girl/boyfriend just because your ex hurt you. Don't treat him/her or the relationship the same way. Don't compare. He/she will not react the same way as your ex. Don't be worried that your simple mistakes will cause him to look for another girl. What happened with your ex was not your fault. It wasn't because you didn't guard him enough or you didn't make him happy enough.
4. Don't look into images.
How many times have you met a girl/boy who didn't have the best image in school or at the office, but you get to know the girl and found out she/he was actually extremely nice? Don't rely on images. Oftentimes, it is far from reality. Don't fear men just because your "supposedly" perfect ex-boy/girlfriend mistreated you.
5. Always have your own set of rules.
Set your limits on how far you'd go for a guy. It's perfectly ok to give and do everything as long as it's worth it. And it's worth it if the guy is treating you right.
6. Don't be scared to lose him.
Don't be scared that he'll break up with you. Once you are afraid of losing him, you easily can be taken advantage. Be strong and if something is unacceptable, do not accept it and speak up.
7. Avoid calling your guy.
It's a guy thing. The relationship will definitely be better if it's the guy who's calling, not the girl. He will get tired of you if you keep on calling. He will lose interest and challenge. More so, he will get annoyed. But it's a girl thing also that your fingers get too itchy until you dial his number. But avoid as much as possible. Call only if really needed (like checking if your suspicions are reasonable).
8. There is a guy who will value you.
There is a guy out there who can make you feel valued, appreciated, and loved. And I mean, not just during your first few weeks together. So don't lose hope. Don't settle for a lesbian if you are not attracted to women. There is a man out there who can love you like a girl can. Also, don't believe him when he says it's just the way he really is. He's not the sweet or expressive-type. Remember during your first few weeks together? Where has that sweet guy gone? He simply is not that into you anymore.
9. Always be the only one, no matter what.
Don't ever fall for a guy who has another girl, be it his wife, girlfriend, or any girl that he says he just can't get rid of for whatever reason. If you truly believe that he loves you and for some reason, he can't leave or let go of another girl, then you are no different from any ordinary mistress.
10. He must respect you.
No matter how long the relationship has been, he should always show respect towards you.
11. If he fooled you, end it.
Philandering once is enough. You can never trust nor respect the person again.
12. Never start a relationship the wrong way.
Don't steal another girl's man, for whatever reason. Nor should you enter a relationship for the wrong reasons (loneliness, on the rebound, getting back at your ex, man-dependency, etc.) it is bound not to last. You will only end up wasting more years of your life.
13. Don't force yourself into a relationship.
Don't get into a relationship just because your friends are getting impatient with your dating escapades and the one hasn't come yet. Ever found yourself holding back because you're too proud?
I realized that pride would get me nowhere. You'll never get anywhere if you don't start somewhere. So swallow your pride. But what I failed to mention was that the absence of pride makes me feel so bare.
Like I'm holding on to it for that just-in-case moment that I realize I just don't want to give it up--- just yet. Maybe until I realize and find the right reason for taking in my pride and as a result, would actually make me a better person. Maybe I'm still waiting for that "humbling experience" to happen. You know, the kind of experience that just makes you realize your flaws and that you have to change not for anyone but for yourself. Am I making any sense?
Well my point is, I'm slowly but unsurely taking in my pride in hopes that by doing so, I'm becoming a more mature person, a braver being. I hope. But I think what I'm doing is a meaningful endeavor and maybe more because I think that person may be worth getting to know, may actually be worth my while. We'll see.
So find a cause, something that you think is worth your while. And if it's a someone, you have master patience and ask yourself if he/she is worth knowing or talking to and that person would make you someone better. Cheesy, yes but hey that's the truth! :D
I end this with a quote in my head:
"When you find someone who makes you smile, when you find someone who makes you learn to love, who makes you wake up to the reality of life, when you find someone who truly listens and shares what he thinks, when you find you want to spend every hour, every minute, every nanosecond with that person, keep him and if he's not yet yours, find him. Everything starts with that one step that makes all the difference in the world."