I write this blog with intention and earnest (don't ever think that I have no intention at my other blog post), maybe my blogpost this time isn't like any other topic..
These days, many thing's running in my mind, whether it's a matter of life, friends, and even love life.. Well, there's no end when it comes the matter about life and love, considering all the people need "love", even the most ignorant and heartless need it.
I learned .. that not everything you want can be yours, it takes effort and hard work to have it, not everyone can think as how you think, not everyone see things in the same way you did, and not everyone can feel what you feel if they have never experienced what you have experienced.
For example, you want to know someone, but because you are afraid or shy, in the end you are discouraged to get acquainted with that person, from here..we can see that you aren't trying to let go of the fear/shame in you, as long as you don't try to let go of it, you will never move forward. I know, everyone is afraid of being rejected, but at least you can prove that you have been trying, for the next step... just pray for the best :p
I learned .. that in life, you're required to be clever in choosing a trusted friend, good at choosing a true friends, you have to be more smart, and good at everything .. I can't explain the meaning of "everything", like what I said earlier, not because I'm lazy to type it, because everyone has a different perspective about this "smart" word..
Example: when you vent to a friend, suddenly all the other friends they know but the story could be different from what you're describing .. Well, that's what they shouldn't disseminate, we told them because we're no longer can keep the problem itself, we need a good listener and who can provide us solutions, not make our problems as a gossip. Right people? :)
I learned .. that in life you do not always just "accept" it, but you are also required to learn to "give", because we needs some balance for a successful relationship, whether it's friendship or dating.
I learned .. that loving someone needed sacrifices and a strong heart, why? when you dare to fell in love, you dare to feel the pain and sick, I don't mean physically, but spiritually. (please ignore my language, I'm such a psychologist LOL!!, I was obsessed with psychology since senior high. hahaha)
Pain that you feel is like a jealousy, resentment, anger, being more emotional, and the language that is the trend now is "galau "or"miris". hahaha ..
You need an example? Well here is an example, say that your partner whether she/he has an EX-bf/gf, unbeknownst to you they met (intentional/unintentional), but they don't tell you, either because they're afraid you'd be angry, or they had another reasons, no one knows in addition to his/her own.
The problem isn't that big on the first place, YEAH even though we are annoyed, at least we know from you, not from anyone else, right? The matter is actually the "honesty". Yes we admit that as a woman, we demand our partner to be honest with us, we better hear it from them than we have to heard it from the mouths of the others, as you remember this phrase, "It's better telling the truth and make them sad rather than telling lies and makes them happy."
Yes I don't know for sure the correct sentence was like, the important thing is that you all the readers know what I mean right? #hahahaha
I learned .. when you truly love someone, no matter how much he hurts you, you can say you hate them, but deep down inside your heart, you can never hate them. There was just a sense of "angry", not "hate". Verily, you can never hate the person you love, even if sometimes they don't deserve it, you easily forgive them because you still want them in your life.
I learned .. when you feel hatred towards anyone, no matter what they are doing well or not, everything looks wrong in your eyes. That's the law, you won't hate someone for no reason isn't it? Just think, what makes you hate that person?
I learned .. to be more patient in this cruel life, no one ever said that life is easy, but if you believe the impossible can become possible.. Try to be more tough in living every problem of your life. In this world, there are still many people who suffer more than you, so be thankful.
I learned .. to be a good listener, sometimes people need a good listener figures, they don't want an answer, they just need a friend to share their story, not the people who always criticize and judge.
I learned .. to be the best, not in the sense of "to be", I never said I was the best .. I'm just doing the best I can do and the best I can give..
I learned .. to become a person who is open-minded, in the sense that can express what is in my mind, and also someone who can look in any widespread problems.
I learned .. to be someone who is not a hypocrite, you can see, if I don't like someone, I won't pretend to like them. I don't say much, just be a good listener.
I learned .. to be able to accept the situation, as time goes by and being older and older each year, we are all faced with "problems", even children who are still young, they're having a trouble too, basically people have problems since they're still a kiddo, just being older and older our problems are also become more severe, have patience & be strong.
I learned .. that to have a happy life is not complicated, do what you think is right, do whatever makes you happy, be with people who supported the you, be with those who make you happy, ignore those who want to bring you down, life is too short to worry about what people's negative thoughts, well.. sorry haters, I don't give a f*ck, you know haters gonna hate. :)
I know, it's not easy being a perfect figure, because you know.. no one is perfect, it isn't easy to be patience in facing the problem, but everything will be okay in the end..
"Those who patient enough will always gets the rights, as God sees, and acts, believe that you deserve to be happy, so.. don't give up!" :)
Well I think this is the end of this un-usual post today, I'll see ya on the next post y'all!